For many people nowadays, getting into a relationship seems as easy as getting a new pair of shoes when the old ones aren’t that comfortable to wear anymore. Some people got used to having a partner that they feel they cannot survive without them. Because of this, whenever they find themselves alone again, they would hastily get into a new relationship and may settle with anyone showing interest in them. Some, on the other hand, have grown tired of being alone and are desperate to find someone they can call their own. Some may be just too trusting, too vulnerable, and so on.
When you asked your friends why they chose the people they’re with, what were their answers? I bet they gave you varied reasons. Some probably told you that their partners do and provide for them what they are not able to do and provide for themselves. Some are driven by lust and satisfaction of carnal desires. Some couples are together just for the sake of their children and the need to share parenting responsibilities. They could give a lot of reasons, valid or not. But try asking them if they think they have made the right decision and if they are happy about it. Again, they can tell you a lot, but the answer is simply yes or no.
Why do some relationships last and some do not? Staying in a relationship requires a lot – trust, friendship, respect, compassion, commitment – all take time to build and are enveloped in one magical feeling: love. But more than just feelings, it is also a decision. The problem is, some people tend to impulsively decide and jump right into relationships in haste only to realize after some time that they have made a mistake. And when things start to become uncomfortable for them, they see no better solution than leave.
If you decide to get into a relationship for the wrong reasons, chances are you will probably end up leaving or being left behind. Relationships take time to build, and if you are in a relationship for reasons other than love, they’re likely destined to fail. Real love withstands everything – it may bend but it does not break. It surpasses all the obstacles and patiently nurtures relationships to grow deep roots in order to last an eternity.
Lies, cheating, dishonesty, but he says he loves you?
How can one hurt someone intentionally, and still look in that person’s face and say I Love You..
He can’t loved you and he’s cheating.
I HAVE NO IDEA.I AM WONDERING THE SAME THING.I HAVE A TRUE DX. EAR INFECTION THAT IS CAUSING SOME VERTIGO.I AM WAITING FOR MY EAR gtts.THIS JUST DAWNED ON ME.MY HUSBAND AND I ARE REALLY GOING THROUGH SOME MAJOR FIGHTING OVER ME WITH MY BELIEF IN GOD.AS LONG AS I DO NOT MENTION GOD’S NAME ,JESUS’S NAME WE ARE FINE.HE BELIEVES IT IS A MYTH.IT STIR’S UP A BIG I MEAN GIANT RUCKS.I WAS AND STILL AM A STRUGGELING CHRISTIAN .HE KNEW THAT WAY BEFORE WE MARRIED.I USUALLY WENT TO CHURCH EVERY SUNDAY WITH MY DAUGHTER .HE EVEN PROPOSED TO ME ON CHRISTMAS .WHILE WE WERE IN KY.CELEBRATING HOW MY FAMILY ARE.THEY ARE BIG CHRISTIAN FAN’S.IF YOU DO SOMETHING AS BIG AS MY HUSBAND DID IN FRONT OF ,EVEN MY GRANDMA SHE DOES AND DID NOT HAVE A BAD BONE IN HER BODY.SHE WAS AN EXAMPLE OF A TRUE NEVER FAKE CHRISTEN.EVERY BODY CALLED HER MOM.NO ONE EVER CALLED HER BY HER FIRST NAME SHE FIT HER TITLE PERFECT.AFTER WE MARRIED IN THE METHODIST CHURCH.I YEAR WENT BY.ONLY I DID SEE SOME CHANGE’S IN HIM DURING THAT FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE.HOWEVER I DID NOT PAY THAT CLOSE OF ATTENTION.IT MUST HAVE BEEN MY ADD.ON THE OTHER HAND I MUST HAVE FOR GOT HOW TO COUNT UP THE PROBLEM’S THAT WHERE COMING.I JUST ALLOWED IT TO GET SO OUT OF HAND THE WAY RD.TALKED TO ME .HE EVEN WENT SO FAR AS TO ADOPT MY DAUGHTER.THEN BECAME VERY MEAN TO HER MOST OF THE TIME.HE NEVER WANTED TO SPEND ANY OF HIS OWN MONEY ON HER OR ANY ONE ELSE.AS LONG AS SOMEONE ELSE OR ME FOOTIN THE BILL .HE WAS RIGHT THERE .WITH HIS BIG AMERICAN EXPRESS PLASTIC FACE ALONG WITH HIS MOTHER AND SISTER.WITCH IN MY EYE’S I SAW THOSE TWO COMING STRAIGHT ON.I COULD SMELL THE TROUBLE.THEN I STARTED LIVING IT ALONG WITH MY HUSBAND AND THOSE T.MY DADDY WARNED ABOUT THEM.NOW 20 YEAR’S LATER I AM STILL TRYING TO KEEP UP WITH THE BIG DOG’S WHITCH IS IN POSSIABLE FOR ME TO DO IT ,BUT I AM.I WAS BORN WITH GOD’S TRUE LOVE SPLASHED ALL OVER MY BODY.NOW MY HUSBAND KNOW’S I AM FED UP WITH ALL OF HIS LYE’S.HE DOES NOT WANT TO SHARE WITH HIS STUFF OR MINE.I WAS NOT RAISED THAT AWAY.FAMILY BIND’S AND TITHES TOGETHER.HE IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO HANDEL.THERE IS SO MUCH MORE TO THIS TRUE STORY I HAVE TO TELL YOU MORE IN BITS AND PIECES. IF I CAN.I AM NOT LOOKING FOR SYMPATHY I AM LOOKING FOR A SWIFT KICK IN MY DONKEY.I NEW I SHOULD HAVE LISTENED TO MY DADDY.HE WARNED ABOUT HIM AND HIS MOM AND SISTER.I DID NOT LISTEN TO MY DADDY OR EVEN GOD.I WAS LIVING IN A FAIRY TALE THAT WENT SOUR.I DESERVE THIS MENTAL AND HAS BEEN PHYSCIAL ABUSE.MY DADDY DIED IN 2011 ON DEC.11th.HE IS LOOKING DOWN FROM HEAVEN IN COMPLETE ANGERED LOVE I HOPE RD WILL LEARN HIS LESSON YOU DO NOT TX YOUR WIFE OR ANY FEMALE OF ANY AGE YOU ARE.HIS CUNNING WAY’S THAT HE DOES NOT EVEN KNOW,ARE SOON TO BE REVEALED.IT HAS HAPPENED TO MANY TIME’S TO ADD UP.RIGHT.HIS BEST WAS THE OTHER DAY [I DON’T EVEN .KNOW THIS JESUS AND GOD PEOPLE] I AM NOT GOING TO BUY INTO HIS DISBELIEF ,AND MY LIVE MY LIFE WORRYING IF I SLIP AND SAY GOD OR JESUS IN MY HOUSE.HE EVEN HAD THE NERVE ON LAST XMAS EVE NIGHT .WHILE MY SON AND I WHERE TALKING ABOUT THE MANGER SCENE TO INTERVENE IN ON ME EXPLAINING TO OUR SON HIS WORD’S WHERE [DON’T BELIEVE ALL THAT SHIT ITS A MYTH AND CULT] WELL WE ARE APPROACHING THAT TIME OF YEAR AGAIN.IT IS AWFUL FOR ME TO SAY I DO NOT WANT TO SPEND ANY MORE CHRISTMAS’S WITH THIS FAKE PERSON.HE HAS MADE ME HATE HIM.I CAN’T EVEN TO STAND TO LOOK AT HIM.I WILL NOT WASTE MY 50’S ON HIM.I HAVE HID IN A GIANT BAG WITH MY FALSE FACE LONG ENOUGH.HOWEVER HE HAS A HOLD ON ME HE BECAME MY PAYEE EVER SINCE I HAVE BEEN SICK.I WAS IN AND OUT OF THE HOSPITAL’S FOR ALONG TIME DEALING WITH MY ILLNESSE’S.WHILE HE SET BACK TO COLLECT.I HAVE BEEN ABLE TO DISGUISE MY SELF FOR MANY YEAR’S.I BROKE DOWN TWO WEEK’S AGO.I DO NOT WANT MY NEW LIFE UP HERE TO BE SHATTERED LIKE IT WAS BEFORE.HE THREATEN’S ME WITH HIS LYE’S AND HE TELL’S ME [IM GONNA CALL THE POLICE ON YUH] WITH MY PAST OF FALLING APART HE COULD REALLY TRAP ME.HE THINK’S HE IS A PROFESSIONAL LIAR .I DO NOT WANT TO BUY INTO IT AGAIN.I CONTINUE TO PRAY,BUT IT IS REAL HARD WHEN IT IS NOT ALLOWED IN YOUR HOUSE EVEN SILENTLY.I AM ALREADY DEALING WITH ONE OF MY ILLNESSES NICK NAMED THE SILENT KILLER.SOMETIMES I CANT KEEP FROM THINKING IF THAT IS WHAT HE WANT’S SO HE WILL BE SET FOR LIFE. TO BE CONTINUED.I LOVE YOU GUY’S TO HEAR ALL OF MY BS AND STILL RESPOND.I DO TELL GOD EVERYTHING HE KNOW’S WELL,BUT THERE’S NOTHING ELSE BETTER TO HAVE ONE MORE FRIEND OR FRIEND’S TO SHARE YOUR STORY.OH BY THE WAY HIS NEW STORY IS I HAVE JOINED A CULT ON THE COMPUTER AND HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH MY 82 YEAR OLD FRIEND I HAVE BOUGHT FIRE WOOD FOR ABOUT 5 YEAR’S AND GAVE HIM COOKIE.HE LIVE’S CLOSE TO THE CEMETERY. WHERE MY FATHER IS BURRIED WHITCH I TELL HIM I AM GOING TO THE PARKING LOT THAT DEAD END’S.HE STILL HAS NOT FIGURED OUT WHAT I MEAN ABOUT THAT
It’s SAD to hear that there are PEOPLE out there that ARE so painfully JEALOUS & HURTFUL towards other people & things that THEIR SUPPOSED LOVED ONES have & enjoy outside of themselves!
I’m sorry to see the PAIN in your words. I too have been in a TOXIC RELATIONSHIP so I can EMPATHIZE with your SITUATION. It’s easy for others to tell you to WALKAWAY! What’s NOT EASY is to put yourself into SOMEONE ELSE’S SHOES & look at things through their PHYSICALLY & EMOTIONALLY BEATEN DOWN eyes!
I can also relate with your ILLNESS side, I too have been STRICKEN with a DISEASE that affects not only my life, but the lives of those around me. It’s DIFFICULT for me to “HANG-IN-THERE” when I, like you, need SOMEONE in my life who can FULLY CARE FOR not only my PHYSICAL NEEDS but the EMOTIONAL NEEDS as well. I was where you’re sitting right now, feeling ALONE, TRAPPED, & SCARED living with a BULLY who can never ever truly UNDERSTAND what you’re FEELING nor has the CAPACITY to be COMPASSIONATE enough to be a CAREGIVER to someone who obviously has a BEAUTIFUL HEART & LOVING NATURE like you.
I’d like to say GOD has brought this CLOSE-MINDED MAN & his LIKE-MINDED FAMILY into your life NOT to PUNISH you but for you to HELP THEM. Is it possible that there is way through to their EMPTY HEARTS?
If you cannot get out from under this man because there simply is no out then by all means try your best to “GRIN & BARE IT”! If you’ve got a place that you can go… then SMILE & SING TO GOD AS YOU WALK OUT THAT DOOR!
I wish you all the luck in the world. GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR CHILD! You’ve been stricken with two challenges, one physical & only time will tell. The other is from this “family” (if you can call them that)… Since you’ve been given the strength to go through the “SILENT KILLER” it just may be what GOD gave you to show you that you CAN & DO have the ABILITY to begin again without the NEGATIVITY of those around you.
BEST WISHES,
GOD BLESS YOU!